#013: The Missing Word In Your Lexicon

There is a word that's missing from the lexicon of most native English speakers.

The first time I became aware of it was on a Bumble date.

I asked my date what she wanted in a relationship, and she replied, "Felicité."

I admitted I didn't know the word's meaning.

Being a Portuguese and French speaker, she tried translating the word into English. I wasn't aware that it was also an English word, and she couldn't find the correct translation. She did her best to describe it in plain English, but it remained confusing. I grasped some of what she meant but didn't fully comprehend.

Language and the size of our lexicon can be either a handicap or an advantage.

Suffice it to say, I later discovered that "Felicity" is indeed an English word.

To her credit, Felicity is a word that's challenging to explain in any language, especially in English, where it's not frequently used. It's often used interchangeably with "happiness," but Felicity goes deeper than happiness. The dictionary defines it as "intense happiness," but it's more intricate than that.

Happiness:

• Nature: A temporary state of contentment and positive emotions.

• Influence: Influenced by external circumstances, events, or experiences.

• Source: Derived from factors such as achievements, relationships, and favorable life circumstances.

• Emotional Experience: Characterized by elation, cheerfulness, or delight.

• Duration: Can fluctuate based on circumstances.

Felicity:

• Nature: A broad and profound state of well-being and fulfillment.

• Influence: Less dependent on external conditions.

• Source: Stemming from inner virtues, personal values, self-acceptance, and alignment with purpose.

• Emotional Experience: Reflects an overall satisfaction and harmony in life.

• Duration: Enduring and less susceptible to fluctuations.

Here are words that can be associated with "Happiness" vs. "Felicity":

I trust you can see the distinction between these words. Happiness is fleeting and relies on external stimuli, while Felicity is not merely "intense happiness." It is wholesome and enduring. Tranquility, which I discussed in last week's newsletter, is more associated with "Felicity" than happiness.

There are countless books written on happiness, but very few on Felicity. I'll leave it up to you to decide which one you prefer.012